While I don't believe that sports are always a metaphor for
life, I do believe that we can learn some lessons from the
more successful and eloquent coaches and players. Some of
those follow, along with my take on their application to your
business and life:
Joe Torre is the manager of the New York Yankees. He's
known as being level-headed, even-tempered and a
straight-talker. His players acknowledge that he rarely allows
problems to fester and that he always deals with conflict in a
dignified way. Some words from Joe:
"Teamwork depends on how we handle conflict and trouble at
work. If we gloss over every problem with an employee,
colleague or supervisor, we're going to live with that tension
constantly. If we say, "I'll deal with it tomorrow," we're
asking for a tough night's sleep. I know, because I've had my
share of sleepless nights."
My take: We all want to be liked. We all also create
rationalizations for not dealing with problems. Have you ever
said, "She knows what she did. I shouldn't have to tell her."
Or how about, "We're all adults here. They know what I meant
when I said that heads would roll if our results don't
improve."
Deal with issues in real time. Don't gloss over them.
Demonstrate dignity and respect, and remember conflict doesn't
mean combat.
Fran Tarkenton led the Minnesota Vikings to several Super
Bowls. His coach, Bud Grant, was known as a tough-minded,
consistent leader. Fran’s comments about his coach:
"Not once in all my years playing for Bud did I ever hear
him hand a player a bill of goods. From the first day you
walked into training camp, you knew he was telling it like it
was.
"He carried a 'no B.S.' philosophy into every game we
played. If we were going up against a team we should beat
handily, he'd say so and tell us what we'd need to do to avoid
getting cocky and blowing it. If we were playing a team that
was better than we were, he'd tell us that too – and what we
should do to beat the odds."
My take: If you want the most out of people, spend your
time figuring out how to convey the truth in a way that it'll
be assimilated and productively employed. Forget about
inventing scenarios to create synthetic motivation.
Pat Summit is the head coach of the Lady Volunteers, the
women's basketball team at the University of Tennessee. She is
tough as nails. She's also compassionate, consistent and a
laser-like listener who envelops people with her undivided
attention.
From Pat: "How many of us go through the day without saying
a word? Maybe some of us ought to try. Communicating isn't
about giving great speeches. It's about encouraging others to
express themselves. The more I have listened to our players,
the better I have known them and understood them."
My take: Most of us don't listen worth a damn. We're either
suffering from terminal distraction ("blackberry syndrome") or
we only allow others to speak so that we can catch our breath
and resume our diatribe. At the risk of generalization, men
are especially bad listeners. We typically listen only to
respond. Women are much better at listening to understand.
Those lines are blurring, however, as we are all increasingly
assaulted by external stimuli.
You can't listen effectively if your mind is somewhere
else.
Phil Jackson is the head coach of the Los Angeles Lakers.
He has led teams to six NBA championships, in addition to two
he won as a player for the New York Knicks in the '60s and
'70s. He's known as the Zen Master for his unique and
compelling approach to the game and to life.
Phil believes that playing aggressively is appropriate;
playing angry is stupid. His comments:
"The man who taught me that lesson (about anger) was Jack
Marin of the (then) Baltimore Bullets, who liked to bait Bill
Bradley by calling him a "pinko liberal" to rattle him. He was
an emotional time-bomb, and I knew if I could get him angry
enough, he'd do something stupid."
Phil went on to say that he'd bait Marin to provoke him
into technical fouls. While he indicated that he later
regretted his own transgressions, his bigger point was that
anger usually results in unproductive action.
My take: Human beings are not rational; we are emotional.
We use reason to make sense of our emotions, but it's our
emotions that incite our actions. Given that, it's imperative
that we understand our triggers and manage and channel our
emotions in a useful way.